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Sex Talk Toolkit

Sex Talk Toolkit

Know how much to say. And have the words ready.

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→ Know what your child needs to know right now, and what can wait

→ Explain it in words that fit their exact age

→ Add your own family's values and boundaries around the facts

→ Keep going when they giggle, say "gross", or go quiet

Maybe they asked. Mid grocery shop, while you were juggling bananas and a fussy toddler: "Mum, how are babies made?"

Maybe puberty's turned up and, well, isn't that when your parents told you? At least that's how it always goes on telly.

Or maybe nobody asked anything at all. You just looked at your child and thought, I should probably say something.

However you got here, the question's the same: how much do you actually say?

That's what the Sex Talk Toolkit is for.

It tells you what your child needs to know right now, gives you the words they'll understand, and helps you add your family values around the facts.

It's all built around my Sex Talk Roadmap — the four stages of explaining sex, from where babies grow through to understanding sex more broadly. You don't have to learn it. The toolkit works out which stage your child is up to and takes it from there.

Because the goal isn't to tell them everything. It isn't to say as little as you can get away with, either. It's to give your child what they're ready for — enough that it makes sense to them, and not so little that they're left to work the rest out on their own.

What you'll be able to do

  • Work out what your child is ready to know right now
  • Explain it in words your child will actually understand
  • Cover just the part you're stuck on, instead of everything at once
  • Start the conversation yourself, rather than waiting to be asked
  • Add your family's beliefs, expectations and boundaries around the facts
  • Keep the conversation going when it doesn't go the way you expected

Here's what's inside

You won't need all of this at once. Most parents use two of them: the GPS to work out what stage their child is at, then the Script Builder for exactly what to say. The rest are there for when you need them.

Sex Talk GPS (start here)
Work out whether it's time, and what your child needs to know. It weighs up more than age: what's on their radar, what's coming as they grow, what they're likely to run into, and whether anything's changed lately.

Script Builder
The actual words. Pick their age, the stage you're explaining and the part you're stuck on. Comes in inclusive or traditional wording, with extras you can add if you want to go further.

Conversation Starter
Four ways in, for when you'd rather not wait to be asked: through a book, a teachable moment, an everyday conversation, or just saying it straight.

Printable age guides
One for every age from 2 to 18, to read ahead or keep handy.

And for the bits that trip parents up:

Bonus: Values Finder
Work out where your family's beliefs, expectations and boundaries sit around the facts, so the explanation sounds like you.

Bonus: Fear Buster
Pick the worry that's making you hesitate, and work through it.

Bonus: Troubleshooter
For when they giggle, say "gross", go quiet, change the subject — or you get stuck halfway.

Bonus: Neuro Adapter
Adapt for literal thinking, processing time, sensory needs, attention or communication. The facts stay the same. The teaching changes.

Worried about saying too much?

Children who get accurate, age-appropriate information make safer choices, not riskier ones. Staying quiet doesn't keep a child innocent — it just means they learn it somewhere else, without you in the room.

And you probably need to say less than you think. A four-year-old asking where babies come from usually just wants to know the baby grows in a uterus. That's it. The toolkit tells you where to stop, which turns out to be just as useful as knowing where to start.

What changes

  • You know what this conversation needs to cover, before you start it
  • The words are ready before the moment arrives
  • When it gets awkward — and it might — you know what to do next

Who it's for

Parents and carers of children aged 2 to 18.

Your family might be religious, secular, conservative, progressive, or somewhere in between. I provide the facts and the words. You add your own family values around them.

And it works whatever your family looks like — same-sex parents, single parents, step and blended families, and children who came along through donor conception, IVF, surrogacy or adoption.

Even if your child is older and you've never said a word about any of this — you're not too late. You just start from where they are today.

About Cath

I'm Cath Hakanson — a nurse, midwife, sexologist and family sex educator with more than 30 years of experience.

I'm also a parent who's had to find these words at my own kitchen table, and an autistic ADHDer. That combination shapes the way I teach: clear, practical, direct, and focused on the child in front of you.

No judgement. Just practical help with what to say next.

How it works

Entirely web-based, with instant access to every tool plus the printable guides. Sign in whenever you need it.

This is a digital product. Nothing physical will be shipped.

What this doesn't cover

The Sex Talk Toolkit isn't a full sex education curriculum. It's built for explaining sex — what it is, how babies start, and how much to say — not puberty, and not the out-of-nowhere questions that land when you're least ready.

And it's not a substitute for the ongoing conversations that come with every age and stage.

Know what to say, before they ask again.

Get instant access to the Sex Talk Toolkit — and explain it in a way that fits your child, and your family.

FAQ

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How do I know if my child is old enough?
That's what the GPS is for. It weighs up where your child is at and tells you whether this can wait, or needs saying now.

What if they ask something I can't answer?
Pick that part in the Script Builder and you'll have the words. And "let me think about that one" is always a fair answer.

What if my child doesn't want to talk about it?
Common, and not a sign you've done it wrong. The Troubleshooter covers going quiet, changing the subject and shutting it down — and what to try next.

They've already heard about it from friends. Is there any point?
More than ever. Yours is the version that sorts out what they've picked up wrong, and tells them they can come back to you.

Our family doesn't look like the one in most sex ed books. Will the scripts still work?
Yes. The explanations cover the different ways families are made and babies are started, so you're not left rewriting a script that assumes a mum and a dad.

Will this work for my autistic and/or ADHDer child?
Yes. The Neuro Adapter changes how you teach it — more literal, more structure, more processing time. The facts stay the same.

💡 Still wondering about something? Just reach out – I’m always happy to help.

For parents and carers of children and teens aged 2 to 18 years.

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Perfect guide for talking to kids

This helped me so much when talking to my 6 year old who had lots of questions about how "babies get into a belly". This guide gives many different ways to speak about sex depending on your familes views and values. It gives you a way to speak about as many or as few details as you are comfortable with or that you think your kid is ready for. I appreciate how well written and thought out this was. I'll be using it in the future for more open talks with my children.

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S.P.
100% recommend

Reading "explaining sexual intercourse" gave me the piece of mind and back up I needed, reinforcing what I knew and offering precious new knowledge, in order for me to feel more confident and as ready as possible for whenever the time comes for educating my child on the matter.

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B.B.
Great resource for those of us who are overwhelmed

I grew up in a conservative home and my sex education was abstinence-only, catholic school education. I knew I wanted to do better by my kids but didn't know where or how to start. Cath broke it down into step-by-step instructions that eased my need to deep dive into researching the healthiest way to approach the subject of sex. She did all the hard work for me! She provides different prompt recommendation depending on your family's values which I really appreciate. I didn't have any examples of a healthy conversation growing up but Cath gives excellent suggestions to get you started - no matter how much or little you want to share. I ended this course feeling relieved, directed and confident that my kids will have a healthier relationship with sex than I ever did. It is a must have, first step for any adult looking to do better!

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J.C.
It was good!

I really appreciated how the topics were broken down to simplify sensitive topics for kids. It made it manageable with a topic that can be uncomfortable.

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