❓ Are my kids too young?
The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex is written for children aged 3 and over, and is broken down into each age. So the information will be age-appropriate. And remember, we don’t just start talking to kids about sex. We break it down into simple concepts that they can understand and we talk about things that they are already interested in. For example, when your 4 year old asks where they come from, they just want to know that they came from inside your tummy (or uterus). They don’t want to know about penises going into vaginas – that is way too complicated for their little brains!
❓ Is this guide right for me?
The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex is for busy parents who want their kids to learn about sex from them (and before they get misinformation from someone or someplace else).
It is for straight talking parents who want to provide their child with accurate information that they will understand. Parents who also want their kids to come to them with their questions (and not the internet or the schoolyard). Parents who are concerned about the impact of negative sexualised messages on their child.
If you believe that kids shouldn’t know words like vulva, penis or sex, then The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex isn’t for you. The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex is very direct and talks about sex in a way that children can understand and not misinterpret. It helps you to talk about the stuff that kids are curious about so that you can satisfy their curiosity (instead of igniting it).
❓ But what if I am Catholic or LDS or Muslim or…?
It doesn’t matter what your beliefs are as The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex just provides you with the facts. It doesn’t tell you what values you should be sharing with your kids. It is up to you to tell your child what behaviours and attitudes are okay and not okay. And don’t worry, The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex will help you to work out what values you want to share with your kids, so that your kids know what attitudes and behaviours are okay and not okay in your family. You’ll find prompts for adding your values.
❓ How often will I need to talk with my child about sex?
That’s up to you. Initially, it might be one or two conversations where you explain sex to your child. and then you might revisit it with an age-appropriate book or grab an everyday situation (like the cat having kittens) to then talk about it again.
Inside the book you’ll find additional resources to help you continue having meaningful conversations with your child about love, sex, relationships and growing up.
❓ But what if I believe in abstinence?
The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex will help you with sharing your beliefs about sexual activity with your child – regardless of what you believe in. If you want to have any influence on what your kids eventually do about sex (e.g. wait for marriage), then you need to start planting the seeds of what you believe in early for it to have any effect! So inside you’ll find prompts for sharing your values.
Also, there is a difference between abstinence and ignorance. If you want your child to abstain from sex, you will have much better success if they are empowered with accurate knowledge as well as have a parent they can turn to.
❓ But it is just too embarrassing!
Yep, I agree! I still feel embarrassed at times, when my kids ask me certain questions about sex. But the more that you talk, the easier it gets! Plus The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex includes some ideas on how to get past the embarrassment of talking about sex with kids.
❓ When should I buy this guide?
The earlier the better. Something has led you to find out about this book, so ‘sex’ must be on your mind, which means it’s probably on your child’s mind too (or soon will be). The earlier you can equip yourself with the knowledge and skills provided by this book, the sooner you’ll be able to support your child.
❓ What if my child isn't ready to hear about sex?
You can’t give kids too much information about sex. Just like other subjects, if kids hear information from a calm, caring adult that is beyond their ability to absorb or understand, they’ll simply become bored and turn their attention elsewhere.
Plus The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex was written so that you could give your child the right amount of information, instead of too much. The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex breaks sex into five stages, where only move onto the next phase when you are confident your child has understood what you’ve talked about so far so they won’t be confused.
❓ What if my child repeats what I have said?
That can happen but The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex will tell you what to do so that you can prevent this from happening.
❓ Won't I sound awkward?
Not to your kids, you won’t! The first conversation is always the hardest but The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex provides tips on how to sound more natural.
❓ Haven't I left it a bit late?
Possibly, but it just means that it is even more important than ever that you start talking now with your child now. The Parent’s Guide to Explaining Sex will show you how to make amends and catch up!
❓ If I talk to my kids about sex, aren’t I just giving them permission to be sexual?
No, research tells us that it has the opposite effect. Kids that have had quality sex education are more likely to delay having sex, and when they do have sex, they are less likely to fall pregnant or catch an infection.
❓ My child isn’t showing any curiosity about sex, is it too soon to buy this book?
Sometimes it is up to us to start the conversation, which is why you’ll find 20+ ideas inside this book for talking about sex so that you can create crucial talking points with your child. Before they get misinformation from someone or someplace else so that you know the right information to share at the right time.
Also talking about sex now, let’s your child know that you want to have these conversations with them, which means it is then okay for them to turn to you with their questions.
❓ Will talking about sex encourage awkward questions?
Talking about sex might encourage awkward questions but that’s actually a good thing! As it means that your child trusts you and already sees you as a reliable source of information! (Congratulations, by the way!)
But you can relax, as I’ve got that covered for you! In the back of this book, you’ll find child-friendly illustrations (and answers) to help with answering tricky questions.
❓ My child isn't comfortable talking about sex, will this guide help?
You’re not alone if your child isn’t comfortable talking about sex, as other parents tell me the same thing. So inside this book, you’ll find lots of suggestions on how to get your child talking.
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