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Masturbation Response Plan

Masturbation Response Plan

Your clear roadmap for knowing what’s normal, what’s not, and exactly how to respond.

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> Know what’s typical (and when to worry) with a simple 5-question framework

> Get scripts that explain privacy in ways kids actually understand

> Access the Parent Q&A Library with 60+ real questions (and answers) from families like yours

> Respond calmly and confidently — without shame, fear, or second-guessing

😳 You walk into the room and freeze.
Your child’s hands are down their pants, or they’re wriggling against the couch cushion.
Your stomach twists, your brain races: Is this normal? What do I say? Am I already messing them up?

Most parents panic in that moment. Some scold. Some ignore it. Others try, “That’s private — go to your room.”

But here’s the thing: those reactions don’t work. Shame leaves scars. Ignoring it doesn’t make it stop. And “private” doesn’t mean much to a 4-year-old hiding under a blanket with their sibling nearby.

That’s why I created The Masturbation Response Plan

I’m Cath Hakanson — nurse, sex therapist, and mum of two. For 25+ years I’ve been helping families handle tricky moments like this without shame. And I built this resource because parents kept telling me: “I wish someone had shown me what to actually do.”

This isn’t a vague blog post or a lecture telling you “it’s normal.” It’s a practical roadmap to help you respond in real life — calmly, safely, and without lasting harm. 

With The Masturbation Response Plan, you’ll:

  • Know exactly what’s typical (and when it might be a red flag) with a simple 5-question framework.
  • Talk about privacy in ways kids actually understand (not just “go to your room”).
  • Respond without shame — while keeping your child safe and supported.
  • Spot when it’s time to seek extra help, and know what steps to take.
  • Feel confident guiding your child through this stage without second-guessing yourself.

What’s inside:

  • 15,000-word Parent Guide (PDF & web-based app): step-by-step scripts, explanations, and guidance.
  • Action Week Email Walkthrough: short, daily prompts to make the big guide feel easy.
  • Curated Book List: vetted children’s books you can trust to back up your conversations.
  • Parent Q&A Library: 60+ real questions asked by parents (just like you) about masturbation — with my clear, supportive answers.

Why parents love it:

❌ Not judgemental. It respects your family’s values, whether faith-based or progressive.
❌ Not overwhelming. It breaks a big, awkward topic into simple steps.
❌ Not just about “stopping a behaviour.” It’s about protecting your child from shame and helping them grow into safe, confident adults.

👉 Ready to stop panicking and start guiding?

Get instant access to The Masturbation Response Plan today — and feel the relief of knowing exactly what to do next.

👉 Grab your copy – you don’t have to figure this out alone

This is a digital product. Nothing physical will ship.

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Suitable for parents of children aged between 0 to 18 years.

How does the web-based app work?

Once you buy the guide, you’ll get a link to a special website with all the content inside – no downloads needed. You can save it to your phone, tablet, or computer so it’s always easy to find when you need it.

How to save it depends on your device – but it’s usually as simple as tapping the three dots in your browser and choosing “Add to Home Screen” or “Bookmark.”

📱 TIP: Open the link on your phone or tablet, tap the menu (top right corner), and look for “Add to Home Screen.” If you’re not sure how, a quick Google search like "how to save a website to my home screen on [your device]" should do the trick.

Is there an audio version of the guide?

Yes! You’ll get access to an AI-generated recording in Cath’s voice, so you can listen on the go.

It’s the same content as the written guide – just in a format that fits your day. (And don’t worry – all content was written by Cath herself.)

We’re a faith-based family. Will this still work for us?

Absolutely. This guide helps you talk about masturbation in a way that aligns with your values. You’ll find flexible language, clear boundaries, and support to explain what’s okay in your home – without shame or judgement.

What if I feel really uncomfortable talking about this?

You're not alone – most parents didn’t grow up with healthy conversations about masturbation. If you were raised with silence, shame, or embarrassment around this topic, it makes sense that it feels hard now.

This guide won’t throw you in the deep end. It gently walks you through what to say, how to say it, and how to feel more confident over time – no shame, no pressure, and no overexplaining.

Won’t talking about this harm my child – or take away their innocence?

Actually, it’s the opposite. Avoiding the topic can leave children confused, scared, or ashamed about their bodies. Talking about masturbation calmly and clearly gives them the tools to understand what’s private, what’s safe, and what’s okay – and helps them come to you with future questions.

A shame-free conversation now protects your child’s emotional wellbeing later.

What exactly will this guide help me do?

You’ll learn how to:

  • Respond when you see your child masturbating – without panic or shame
  • Explain that it’s private behaviour and set gentle, clear boundaries
  • Talk about pleasure in a way that supports body confidence and safety
  • Have an ongoing, respectful conversation that fits your child’s age and your values

This isn’t a one-time fix. It’s a resource that grows with your child – and helps you feel ready, not rattled.

What if I’ve left it too late to talk about this?

It’s never too late. Whether your child is already in puberty or you’ve avoided the topic until now, this guide will help you start the conversation in a way that feels calm, clear, and respectful. You can begin today – and keep building the conversation over time.

What if my child is doing it a lot – should I be worried?

The guide includes a section on how often is typical, what to watch for, and when to seek help (without jumping to conclusions). Most of the time, frequent masturbation is just part of learning about their body – and the guide will help you respond without panic.

Will this encourage my child to masturbate more?

No. Talking about masturbation won’t make a child do it more – but avoiding the topic can leave them confused or ashamed. This guide helps you explain that it’s a private behaviour, without making it feel dirty or wrong.

Is this just information – or will it actually help me talk to my child?

It’s both. The guide gives you the background knowledge and the words to use. You’ll find scripts, examples, and conversation starters that are age-appropriate and easy to adapt for your family.

Is it suitable for neurodivergent kids?

Yes. There’s a whole section of extra guidance for children who are autistic, sensory-seeking, or may need more support with privacy and body awareness.

Still have a question?

Just click the chat button in the bottom corner of your screen and ask away – I’m happy to help 😊

Isn’t masturbation normal for kids? Do I really need this?
Yes, self-touch is a typical part of child development. But “normal” doesn’t mean it’s easy to handle as a parent. The plan helps you respond calmly, explain privacy in ways kids actually understand, and know when behaviour might need more attention.

What if our family has strong faith-based values?
This resource doesn’t tell you what your values should be. Instead, it gives you the tools and language to set boundaries in a way that reflects your family’s beliefs — while avoiding shame that can harm your child in the long run.

My child is older — is it too late?
Not at all. Whether your child is a toddler, school-aged, or in their tween years, the plan helps you step in with confidence now. It’s never too late to replace confusion with clarity and connection.

Can’t I just read a blog or ask in a parenting group?
You could — but most free advice is vague, contradictory, or just tells you “it’s private.” This plan is evidence-based, practical, and written by a qualified nurse and sex therapist who has answered these exact questions for hundreds of families.

How will I get the resource?
You’ll receive instant access to the digital guide (PDF + web-based app), the Action Week email walkthrough, the curated children’s book list, and the Parent Q&A Library with 60+ real questions and answers. You can read online, print it out, or work through it step by step by email.

What if I’m too embarrassed or worried I’ll say the wrong thing?
That’s exactly why this exists. You’ll have scripts, examples, and reassurance at your fingertips. You don’t need perfect words — you just need to show up calmly, and this plan makes that possible.

What exactly do I get when I buy?
You’ll get instant access to:

  • The Parent Guide (15,000-word digital guide as PDF + web-based app) — step-by-step explanations, scripts, and red-flag checks.
  • The Parent Q&A Library — 60+ real questions asked by parents, answered with clear, practical advice.
  • Action Week Email Walkthrough — short, daily prompts that break the big guide into easy steps.
  • Curated Book Reviews — vetted children’s books you can trust to back up your conversations (no outdated myths or random AI content).

How do I access it?
Once you purchase, you’ll get an email with instant access links. You can:

  • Read the guide online in the app,
  • Download the PDF to your computer or phone,
  • Print it out if you prefer,
  • Or follow along step-by-step with the Action Week emails.

Is this a physical book?
No. This is a digital resource — so you can get started straight away, without waiting for shipping.

What if I’m too embarrassed or worried I’ll say the wrong thing?
That’s exactly why this exists. You’ll have scripts, examples, and reassurance at your fingertips. You don’t need perfect words — you just need to show up calmly, and this plan makes that possible.

You will not receive a physical product in the mail. Instead, you will receive access to a digital file, which you can print out or view on a screen.

This allows you to make as many copies as you'd like for your own family’s use.

30-day no hassle money back guarantee.

The success of my business depends on the happiness of my customers.

If you don’t feel like you’ve got enough value for the price you paid, I’ll give you your money back. No questions asked.

You have 30-days from the date of your purchase to request your refund.

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Thankyou Cath

As a practitioner working in this space, coming across this course for free and being able to share it with parents and staff, was just the cherry on top of visiting Cath's website. Thankyou for your accessible, compassionate and colourful approach!

A very useful course, thank you!

My daughter is 6 years old. Masturbation is a delicate subject and it is not easy to talk about it with friends or family, even with the doctor, because masturbation in young children triggers alarms and they think there may be abuse. So I thank you for this course, so well explained. My mother tongue is not English, but this course explains things clearly, in a simple and practical way, with tips and resources. With this course I understood that masturbation in young children is not so rare, I learnt how to deal with it and I felt understood and relieved knowing that there are more parents worried about this. Again, thank you.

wish i purchased this sooner

after a small incident with my 2 & 4 yr old, I purchased this course to learn how to approach teaching my kids about consent and to better understand what I should actually be concerned about. After this course, I purchased a few books that were recommended and will be having regular discussions with both my kids about body curiosity

Incredibly helpful resource

This is such essential reading, even if you do not think this is an issue for your kids in the moment, because it normalizes behaviors that to the untrained may seem problematic!

Just what I needed!

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the reassurance I needed!

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Great product- non judgemental, friendly delivery

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Excellent information

Was very helpfull to oriented my daugther

Love it

What a great resource!

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A great break down and understanding of sexual behaviors, both worrisome and age appropriate, by age. A great resource for someone who works with children and teens

Really helpful

Heaps of advice I'd never even thought about, super helpful!

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Very informative, totally recommend

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Amazing info

This information is so valuable to all parents and educators. I wish we kids were born with this in hand. So so good.

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Making it easier!

I absolutely love this. This has helped me talk to my young children about different body parts, it also opens up conversation about body types. Everyone is different and I want my kids to know that! I definitely plan to purchase more in the future to help me as my kids grow.