• Sex Ed Starter Toolkit cover, online tools that show parents where to start with their child’s sex education, for ages 0 to 18.
  • What parents can do with the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit: see the whole picture of sex education, know what to cover at their child’s age, find words for everyday moments, and keep going when it’s awkward.
  • Demo video of the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit on a phone: finding a place to begin, then seeing a line you could say.
  • The Sex Ed Starter Toolkit is a set of online tools that work on any phone, tablet or computer. You can use it in your hand during a conversation, type into it, and print it or copy what you need.
  • Everything included in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit: the Roadmap, Starting Point, Foundations, Age Guides and Ways to Talk, plus the Fear Buster, Troubleshooter, Neuro Adapter and printable age guides, checklists and extras.
  • How the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit works, in three steps: find your starting point, see what to cover at your child’s age, and find the words, plus extra tools for when you want more.
  • The Sex Ed Starter Toolkit is for parents and carers of children aged 0 to 18.
  • Cath Hakanson, sexual health nurse and family sex educator, creator of the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit.
  • Screenshots of Ways to Talk in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, showing the list of everyday ways to bring up sex education and an example of what to say, with examples for every age.
  • Screenshots of Starting Point in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, working out where a parent could begin, with a sample result naming a place to begin and why.
  • The Age Guides in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit: a quick guide and a checklist for each age, showing what to teach, with a sample checklist of what a parent has started teaching.
  • Screenshot of Foundations in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, a crash course on teaching your child about bodies, sex and relationships, which parents can watch, listen to or read.
  • Screenshot of the Roadmap in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, a map of the areas sex education covers as your child grows, with one area opened to show what it includes.
  • Three extra tools in the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit: the Fear Buster, Troubleshooter and Neuro Adapter, each with a short description of what it helps with.
  • Printable age guides, checklists and extras included with the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, for every age from 0 to 18.
  • The Sex Ed Starter Toolkit works for every kind of family, including same-sex parents, single parents, step and blended families, and children who came through donor conception, IVF, surrogacy or adoption.
  • The Sex Ed Starter Toolkit is neurodivergent friendly, with guidance on changing how you explain things to suit your child.
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Sex Ed Starter Toolkit

Sex Ed Starter Toolkit

You don’t know where to start with your child’s sex educationAn online toolkit. Answer a few questions about your child and it shows you where to start, what to talk about and how to say it. Printable age guides and checklists for every age from 0 to 18 are included.
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→ Know where to begin, with one clear first step

→ See the whole picture, so you know what’s coming

→ Know what to cover, at your child’s age

→ Find the words, for everyday moments

→ Keep going when it’s awkward, or when it doesn’t go to plan
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You know you should start your child’s sex education. You just don’t know where to begin.

Maybe your toddler has just asked what their body parts are called. Maybe puberty is on its way, or your teenager is already older than you hoped they’d be when you started.

Whatever their age, it’s the same stuck feeling: where do I even begin?

You don’t need your child’s whole sex education worked out. You need a first step, then the next one. That’s what the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit is for.

Here’s what’s inside

The main tools, a few support tools, and printable age guides and checklists for every age from 0 to 18.

Five tools work together: the big picture → where to start → the basics → what to cover → how to say it.

ROADMAP
See the whole picture.
A one-page map of everything sex education covers from birth to 18, from bodies and privacy to relationships, life online and safety. Tap an area to see what it includes, so you know what’s ahead.

STARTING POINT
Work out where to start.
Tell it your child’s age and what’s brought you here, and it shows you a place to begin and why. You don’t need to cover everything at once. You need the next conversation.

FOUNDATIONS
Learn the basics of teaching your child about bodies, sex and relationships.
The crash course on how to do it, in whichever format suits you: watch it, listen to it or read it.

AGE GUIDES
Know what to cover at your child’s age.
A quick guide and a checklist for each age band from 0 to 18, so you can see what to teach now and what can wait.

WAYS TO TALK
Find practical ways to bring it up.
Everyday ways to weave sex education into the moments you already have, with examples for each age and a set of conversation starter cards.
“People can decide who sees their private body parts. That’s why we knock before entering when someone’s getting changed.”

You’ll also find a few extra tools tucked in, for when it’s something other than the plan that’s in the way. The Fear Buster for when worry makes you hesitate to start, the Troubleshooter for when a conversation doesn’t go the way you hoped, and the Neuro Adapter for when it’s the explaining that needs to change rather than what you say. They’re there when you want them.

Prefer it on paper? The same guidance comes as printable age guides and checklists for every age from 0 to 18, plus a few extra printables. Read ahead, tick things off or keep them nearby for the moment itself.

Will talking about this harm my child?

No. Accurate, age-appropriate information helps children make safer choices. It’s silence that leaves them guessing.

Age-appropriate doesn’t mean adult-level detail. A four-year-old asking where babies come from needs a very different answer from a fourteen-year-old, and the toolkit keeps everything matched to your child’s age.

🔒 Nothing you type into the toolkit is stored or sent anywhere.

Who it’s for

Parents and carers of children aged 0 to 18. You might be starting with a toddler, getting ready for puberty, or realising your teenager needs conversations you haven’t had yet.

Your family might be religious, secular, conservative, progressive, or somewhere in between. I provide the facts and the words. You add your own family values around them.

It works whatever your family looks like: same-sex parents, single parents, step and blended families, and children who came along through donor conception, IVF, surrogacy or adoption.

It’s for neurodivergent families too, whether that’s your child, you, or both of you. If your child needs things explained more literally, in smaller pieces, or with more time to process, there’s guidance inside on how to explain it in a way that works for them. The facts stay the same.

If your child is older and you haven’t started, you’re not too late. You just start from where they are today.

About Cath

I’m Cath Hakanson, a nurse, midwife, sexologist and family sex educator with more than 30 years of experience. 

I’m also a parent who’s had to find these words at my own kitchen table. I’m an autistic ADHDer, raising neurodivergent kids of my own. That combination shapes the way I teach: clear, practical, direct, and focused on the child in front of you.

No judgement. Just practical help with what to say next.

What this doesn’t cover

Each of my toolkits does one topic properly, rather than a bit of everything. This one is getting started: how to begin, what to cover at each age and how to keep the conversations going.

It’s written for you to use, not for your child. And it gives you the map and the first steps rather than a full toolkit on every topic. If you want to go deeper on puberty or explaining sex, there’s a toolkit for each of those.

Know where to begin, so you can start.

Get instant access to the Sex Ed Starter Toolkit, and start your child’s sex education in a way that fits your child and your family.

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Suitable for parents of children aged between 0 to 18 years.

The Sex Ed Starter Toolkit is entirely web-based. Sign in and you’ll have ongoing access to the Roadmap, Starting Point, Foundations, Age Guides and Ways to Talk, the Neuro Adapter for shaping how you explain things to how your child understands best, the other support tools, and the printables. There’s nothing you have to work through in order and no start date. 

Sign in the moment you want to know what to do next, get what you need, and come back the next time. It’s built to be used as your child grows, not finished in a weekend.

This is a digital product. Nothing physical will be shipped.

Is it really okay to talk to my child about sex? I worry it’ll put ideas in their head.
Yes. Talking about it doesn’t put ideas in their head. Accurate, age-appropriate information helps children make safer choices, and it keeps you the person they come to with questions. Silence just leaves them to find answers elsewhere. There’s guidance inside for every age, from toddlers to teenagers.

Doesn’t school cover this?
Schools cover some of it, but what they teach and when varies a lot, and it won’t include your family’s values. Home is where the everyday conversations happen, in small moments with someone your child trusts. You don’t need to replace school. You just need to be part of it.

Nothing has come up yet. Isn’t it too early?
Not at all. Sex education starts small, with things like correct names for body parts, privacy and respect. Starting Point shows you what suits your child’s age right now, so you begin with something that fits and don’t say more than they need.

I haven’t said anything and my child is older. Have I left it too late?
No. Lots of parents start with a tween or teenager. Starting Point works from where your child is today, and the Age Guides show you what to cover now and what can wait. There’s nothing to catch up on.

I get embarrassed just thinking about it. What if I freeze?
That’s very common, and it doesn’t stop you doing this well. The Fear Buster works through the worry holding you back, so you can name it and move past it. You don’t have to feel confident first. You can start nervous.

What if I say the wrong thing and make it awkward?
Then you can try again. One clumsy conversation isn’t the end of it, and going back with “let’s try that again” is a good model for your child too. The Troubleshooter helps you work out what happened and what to try next.

My child won’t talk about it, or says they already know everything.
That’s common, especially as children get older. Ways to Talk has low-pressure ways in, including conversation starter cards. The Troubleshooter helps when they laugh, shut down or insist they know it all.

My child is autistic or ADHD. Will this work for us?
Yes. The facts stay the same, and the Neuro Adapter helps you change how you explain them: more literally, in smaller pieces, or with more time to process. It also helps you work out what might be behind a reaction.

We have strong beliefs about sex. Will this fit our family?
Yes. Your family can be religious, secular or anywhere in between. You get the facts and the words, and you add your own values around them. It works for any family shape too, including single parents, same-sex parents and blended families.

What actually is this? Is it a book?
No, it’s a set of tools you use online. You tell it about your child, or explore the topic you’re thinking about, and it gives you the words. No book to get through first, no course to sit down for. Open the tool that answers today’s question, get what you need, and go and have the conversation.

It also includes printable age guides and checklists for every age from 0 to 18, plus a few extra printables. Printable, and yours to keep.

Do I need to download anything?
No. Everything runs in your browser. Nothing to install, nothing to update, and it works on a phone.

Does it save what I type in?
No. Nothing you type is stored or sent anywhere. Close the tab and it’s gone. Nobody sees what you asked, including me.

Can I keep what it gives me?
Yes. You can copy helpful explanations or words to use with your child, save information for later, or print out practical steps to keep handy. You don’t have to print everything. Just keep the bits you’ll actually use.

Can I use it for more than one child?
Yes, as many times as you like. There’s no limit, and no separate purchase per child.

Is it a one-time purchase?
Yes. You pay once and it’s yours. No subscription and no renewal, and you won’t ever need to buy it again.

30-day no-hassle money-back guarantee.

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Great product- non judgemental, friendly delivery

I recently purchased the getting started with sex ed course and was pleasantly surprised to find that instead of doing a big awkward talk like I feared, I’d already been doing a lot of the little conversations about bodies, feelings, consent etc with my kids. I liked how she broke the details into specific age/stages. Highly recommend!

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Heaps of advice I'd never even thought about, super helpful!

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