{"product_id":"ncsj8cv3x2","title":"Sex Talk Toolkit + Bonus Tools","description":"\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMaybe they asked. Mid grocery shop, while you were juggling bananas and a fussy toddler: \"Mum, how are babies made?\"\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eMaybe puberty's turned up and, well, isn't that when your parents told you? At least that's how it always goes on telly.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eOr maybe nobody asked anything at all. You just looked at your child and thought, I should probably say something.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eHowever you got here, the question's the same:\u003cstrong\u003e how much do you actually say?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eThat's what the \u003cstrong\u003eSex Talk Toolkit\u003c\/strong\u003e is for.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eIt works out what your child needs to know right now, gives you the words they'll understand, and helps you add your family values around the facts.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eIt's all built around my \u003cstrong\u003eSex Talk Roadmap\u003c\/strong\u003e - the four stages of explaining sex, from where babies grow through to understanding sex more broadly. You don't have to learn it. The toolkit works out which stage your child is up to and takes it from there.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eBecause the goal isn't to tell them everything. It isn't to say as little as you can get away with, either. It's to give your child what they're ready for - enough that it makes sense to them, and not so little that they're left to work the rest out on their own.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eWhat you'll be able to do\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWork out what your child is ready to know right now\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExplain it in words your child will actually understand\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCover just the part you're stuck on, instead of everything at once\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStart the conversation yourself, rather than waiting to be asked\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAdd your family's beliefs, expectations and boundaries around the facts\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep the conversation going when it doesn't go the way you expected\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eHere's what's inside\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhere your child is up to → what to say → how to bring it up.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSEX TALK GPS\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWork out where your child is up to on the Roadmap.\u003c\/strong\u003e Whether it's time, and which of the four stages your child needs. It weighs up more than age: what your child already understands, what's on their radar, what's coming as they grow, what they're likely to run into, and whether anything's changed lately.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSCRIPT BUILDER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWork out what to say for that stage, at their age.\u003c\/strong\u003e Pick their age, the stage you're explaining and the part you're stuck on, and you'll have the words to say it out loud. Comes in inclusive or traditional wording, with extras you can add if you want to go further. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCONVERSATION STARTER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWork out how to bring it up.\u003c\/strong\u003e Four ways in, for when you'd rather not wait to be asked: through a book, a teachable moment, an everyday conversation, or just saying it straight.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eThose three are the ones you'll reach for.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eYou'll also find a few extra tools tucked in, for when it's something other than the words that's in the way - the \u003cstrong\u003eFear Buster\u003c\/strong\u003e for when worry or doubt makes you hesitate to start, the \u003cstrong\u003eTroubleshooter\u003c\/strong\u003e for when they laugh, say \"gross\" or won't talk about it at all, the \u003cstrong\u003eValues Finder\u003c\/strong\u003e for putting your family's beliefs and boundaries around the facts, and the \u003cstrong\u003eNeuro Adapter\u003c\/strong\u003e for when it's the explaining that needs to change rather than what you say. They're there when you want them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePrefer it on paper?\u003c\/strong\u003e The same guidance comes as printable age guides, one for every age from 3 to 18 - handy if you'd rather read ahead, highlight the wording that fits your family, keep something nearby for the moment itself, or work from paper rather than the online tools.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePrintable age guides\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cbr\u003eOne for every age from 3 to 18, to read ahead or keep handy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eAnd for the bits that trip parents up:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAnd for the bits that trip parents up - 4 bonuses, included\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eThe three tools above get you through the conversation itself. These four are for everything around it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBONUS 1 - VALUES FINDER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWork out what your family believes, before you have to say it out loud.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe facts are the same in every home. What's different is what your family believes around them - about relationships, privacy, timing, and what you expect of your child as they grow. Work out where you actually sit, and you'll know what to add around the facts. So the explanation sounds like you, rather than something read out of a book.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBONUS 2 - FEAR BUSTER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eName what's actually stopping you, and get past it.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eParents who haven't started usually aren't stuck on the facts. They're worried they'll say too much, plant an idea that wasn't there, or get it wrong in a way that can't be undone. Pick the worry that's actually yours and work through that one. It's usually the difference between meaning to have the conversation and having it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBONUS 3 - TROUBLESHOOTER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFor when the conversation doesn't go the way you planned.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThey giggle, say \"gross\", go quiet, change the subject - or you get halfway through and lose your nerve. It's the part nobody warns you about, and it's where parents decide they're bad at this and quietly stop. A child laughing is a child who's uncomfortable, not a child who's been harmed. Find what happened, and you'll know what to do next.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBONUS 4 - NEURO ADAPTER\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eChange how you explain it, for the child in front of you.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAdapt for literal thinking, processing time, sensory needs, attention or communication - including for autistic and ADHD children. Adjust the wording, the format, how much detail and the pacing, until it fits the child you've got. \u003cstrong\u003eThe facts stay the same. The teaching changes.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eAll four are included. Use the ones you need, when you need them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eWorried about saying too much?\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eChildren who get accurate, age-appropriate information make safer choices, not riskier ones. Staying quiet doesn't keep a child innocent - it just means they learn it somewhere else, without you in the room.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eAnd \u003cstrong\u003eyou probably need to say less than you think.\u003c\/strong\u003e A four-year-old asking where babies come from usually just wants to know the baby grows in a uterus. That's it. The toolkit tells you where to stop, which turns out to be just as useful as knowing where to start.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eWhat changes\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou know what this conversation needs to cover, before you start it\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe words are ready before the moment arrives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen it gets awkward - and it might - you know what to do next\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eWho it's for\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eParents and carers of children aged 3 to 18.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eYour family might be religious, secular, conservative, progressive, or somewhere in between. I provide the facts and the words. \u003cstrong\u003eYou add your own family values around them.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eAnd it works whatever your family looks like - same-sex parents, single parents, step and blended families, and children who came along through donor conception, IVF, surrogacy or adoption.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eIt's for neurodivergent families too - whether that's your child, you, or both of you. If your child needs things explained more literally, in smaller pieces, or with more time to process, there's guidance inside on how to explain it in a way that works for your child. \u003cstrong\u003eThe facts stay the same.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eEven if your child is older and you've never said a word about any of this - you're not too late. You just start from where they are today.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eAbout Cath\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eI'm Cath Hakanson, a nurse, midwife, sexologist and family sex educator with more than 30 years of experience. Being a midwife gave me a head start on the facts. Finding words a four-year-old could actually understand took a lot longer.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eI'm also a parent who's had to find these words at my own kitchen table. I'm an autistic ADHDer, raising neurodivergent kids of my own. That combination shapes the way I teach: clear, practical, direct, and focused on the child in front of you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eNo judgement. Just practical help with what to say next.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eWhat this doesn't cover\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eEach of my toolkits does one topic properly, rather than a bit of everything. This one is explaining sex: what it is, how babies start, and how much to say.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003eIf what you need is puberty or talking about masturbation, there's a toolkit for each of those.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(248, 232, 155);\"\u003eKnow what to say, before they ask again.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp dir=\"ltr\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGet instant access to the Sex Talk Toolkit - and explain it in a way that fits your child, and your family.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c!----\u003e","brand":"The Sex Ed Shop","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":55505486643491,"sku":null,"price":32.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0741\/8072\/2979\/files\/discussing_sex_22.png?v=1788368541","url":"https:\/\/sexedshop.com\/products\/ncsj8cv3x2","provider":"Sex Ed Shop","version":"1.0","type":"link"}