The Parents' Guide to Masturbation

Name: The Parents' Guide to Masturbation
Brand: The Sex Ed Shop
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What to say. How to say it. Without the shame.

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> Talk about genital pleasure calmly and clearly

> Teach without shame, fear, or awkwardness

> Get factual, age-appropriate info you can adapt to your values

> Make home a safe, open space for tricky conversations

Masturbation is one of the most common things kids do – and one of the hardest things to talk about.

It can catch you off guard, bring up awkward feelings, and leave you wondering what’s “okay” and what to say next. That’s why this guide exists: to help you handle these moments with calm, clarity, and confidence – no shame, no overexplaining, and no need to panic.

Whether you’ve just witnessed something unexpected, or you’re trying to start the conversation before puberty takes over – this resource will help.

Introducing: The Parents’ Guide to Masturbation

This 85-page digital guide (plus a mobile-friendly web app) helps you respond with confidence, set respectful boundaries, and guide your child’s relationship with their body in a healthy, values-aligned way.

Written by Cath Hakanson – sex educator, nurse, and mum – it’s based on 25+ years of helping families talk about tricky stuff with kindness and clarity.

This guide will help you:

Understand what masturbation looks like at different ages (0 to 18)
Respond to your child in a way that’s calm, shame-free, and appropriate
Set healthy boundaries and explain privacy clearly
Decide what messages and rules reflect your own family values
Support your child’s developing body awareness and self-esteem

Here’s what’s inside:

📘 8 Practical Chapters, including:

What masturbation is (and why kids do it)
Why this topic feels hard – and how to make it easier
What to say if you see your child doing it
How to explain pleasure, privacy, and body rules
Scripts and example conversations for different ages
Tips for setting boundaries without shame or confusion
Encouragement to keep the door open for future talks

✨ Extra Guidance for:

Navigating sensory-seeking behaviours (especially for autistic kids)
Answering tricky kid questions like “Why does it feel good?”
Reassuring kids who feel worried, embarrassed, or ashamed
Supporting different values and beliefs (including religious families)

📱 Plus: A mobile-friendly web app version – perfect for quick reference when you need it most

🎧 Now includes an audio version!
Listen on the go with an AI-generated recording in Cath’s voice. Same content, just easier to fit into your day.

Worried this will be too much for your child? Or too awkward for you?

You don’t have to be perfectly prepared. This guide meets you where you’re at – with gentle language, clear steps, and support that fits your family.

Already had the talk? This guide will help you build on it. Because masturbation isn’t a one-off chat – it’s something you’ll come back to as your child grows.

Ready to feel confident instead of caught off guard?

Grab The Parents’ Guide to Masturbation now and get the tools and language you need to handle this topic with clarity, calm, and care.

👉 Grab your copy – you don’t have to figure this out alone

You can find even more resources to help you respond to tricky sexual behaviours in the Sex Ed Shop!

This is a digital product. Nothing physical will ship.

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Suitable for parents of children aged between 0 to 18 years.

❓How does the web-based app work?

Once you buy the guide, you’ll get a link to a special website with all the content inside – no downloads needed. You can save it to your phone, tablet, or computer so it’s always easy to find when you need it.

How to save it depends on your device – but it’s usually as simple as tapping the three dots in your browser and choosing “Add to Home Screen” or “Bookmark.”

📱 TIP: Open the link on your phone or tablet, tap the menu (top right corner), and look for “Add to Home Screen.” If you’re not sure how, a quick Google search like "how to save a website to my home screen on [your device]" should do the trick.

❓Is there an audio version of the guide?

Yes! You’ll get access to an AI-generated recording in Cath’s voice, so you can listen on the go.

It’s the same content as the written guide – just in a format that fits your day. (And don’t worry – all content was written by Cath herself.)

❓We’re a faith-based family. Will this still work for us?

Absolutely. This guide helps you talk about masturbation in a way that aligns with your values. You’ll find flexible language, clear boundaries, and support to explain what’s okay in your home – without shame or judgement.

❓What if I feel really uncomfortable talking about this?

You're not alone – most parents didn’t grow up with healthy conversations about masturbation. If you were raised with silence, shame, or embarrassment around this topic, it makes sense that it feels hard now.

This guide won’t throw you in the deep end. It gently walks you through what to say, how to say it, and how to feel more confident over time – no shame, no pressure, and no overexplaining.

❓Won’t talking about this harm my child – or take away their innocence?

Actually, it’s the opposite. Avoiding the topic can leave children confused, scared, or ashamed about their bodies. Talking about masturbation calmly and clearly gives them the tools to understand what’s private, what’s safe, and what’s okay – and helps them come to you with future questions.

A shame-free conversation now protects your child’s emotional wellbeing later.

❓What exactly will this guide help me do?

You’ll learn how to:

Respond when you see your child masturbating – without panic or shame
Explain that it’s private behaviour and set gentle, clear boundaries
Talk about pleasure in a way that supports body confidence and safety
Have an ongoing, respectful conversation that fits your child’s age and your values

This isn’t a one-time fix. It’s a resource that grows with your child – and helps you feel ready, not rattled.

❓What if I’ve left it too late to talk about this?

It’s never too late. Whether your child is already in puberty or you’ve avoided the topic until now, this guide will help you start the conversation in a way that feels calm, clear, and respectful. You can begin today – and keep building the conversation over time.

❓What if my child is doing it a lot – should I be worried?

The guide includes a section on how often is typical, what to watch for, and when to seek help (without jumping to conclusions). Most of the time, frequent masturbation is just part of learning about their body – and the guide will help you respond without panic.

❓Will this encourage my child to masturbate more?

No. Talking about masturbation won’t make a child do it more – but avoiding the topic can leave them confused or ashamed. This guide helps you explain that it’s a private behaviour, without making it feel dirty or wrong.

❓Is this just information – or will it actually help me talk to my child?

It’s both. The guide gives you the background knowledge and the words to use. You’ll find scripts, examples, and conversation starters that are age-appropriate and easy to adapt for your family.

❓Is it suitable for neurodivergent kids?

Yes. There’s a whole section of extra guidance for children who are autistic, sensory-seeking, or may need more support with privacy and body awareness.

❓Still have a question?

Just click the chat button in the bottom corner of your screen and ask away – I’m happy to help 😊

You will not receive a physical product in the mail. Instead, you will receive access to a digital file, which you can print out or view on a screen.

This allows you to make as many copies as you'd like for your own family’s use.

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A very useful course, thank you!

My daughter is 6 years old. Masturbation is a delicate subject and it is not easy to talk about it with friends or family, even with the doctor, because masturbation in young children triggers alarms and they think there may be abuse. So I thank you for this course, so well explained. My mother tongue is not English, but this course explains things clearly, in a simple and practical way, with tips and resources. With this course I understood that masturbation in young children is not so rare, I learnt how to deal with it and I felt understood and relieved knowing that there are more parents worried about this. Again, thank you.

Thank goodness for Cath at SexEd Rescue

Cath has provided invaluable insight & signposting for a really tricky situation! I’d be a hysterical hot mess without her guidance & support. I am so grateful for her work in this field!
Buy the course. It’s money well spent.
There’s a clue in the name, “SexEd rescue”. Cath really is the SexEd safety net for bewildered patents.

Excellent advice from an expert

I loved Cath’s class because it gave me permission to lean into my instincts and relax around some of the things that were coming up in my household. I also greatly appreciated how much explicit attention Cath gave to neurodivergent children. She even provided more resources to follow up with if I chose to (which I did). Her class had made my life much easier. Very accessible in many different formats and I can easily share with my husband. Thank you, Cath!

Let the fun times begin!

I purchased this resource to educate myself after my 5 yo discovered that shower stream feels nice down there. The next day the conversation was so easy for me, I knew what to say and how much detail to give. Cath’s language is accessible down to earth Aussie, I felt like I was sitting across her talking about it.
I’ve purchased other items from her store and
reading/watching them felt more at ease with the most difficult conversations around sex and bodies. I would recommend Cath and her knowledge for anyone wanting to provide their children with the right/accessible information so they can thrive in life confident in their bodies and loving themselves. Thank you Cath. You’ve made my job as a mum much easier.

Helpful information, but inconsistent in one major area.

I found the masterclass to be thorough and centered on developing a healthy sense of autonomy and self-exploration for children. One aspect that was confusing was that Cath repeatedly went over the importance of kids understanding that masturbation is something that they must only do in private- which I agree, is critical- yet she also said that kids masturbating with each other is totally normal and "okay" so long as they aren't touching each other. While curiosity and exploration might be developmentally expected, children need clear and consistent boundaries around privacy so that they are not vulnerable to sexual abuse by peers or adults.

Hi Ariel, and thanks for bringing that up! I have gone back into the Masterclass and have found what you are referring to.
There is a section (WHO masturbates and how this behaviour changes as your child grows up - What is developmentally appropriate behaviour?) that talks about the sexual behaviours a child may display as they grow up.
I have used a European tool and they explain that children may want to masturbate with others, and if they do it is seen as being developmentally approriate behaviour, as long as they are only masturbating themselves and not touching other people's penises.
So... this is where it starts to get confusing, as just because a behaviour is seen as being age-appropriate, it doesn't mean that we let them keep on doing it. We would discourage it and ensure they know it is a private thing (not public).
I'll jump into the Masterclass and add a note into this section of the readable notes.
I hope this makes sense! Cheers, Cath

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Loved it!

Great information and specially, great explanation, thanks for walking with us in every step

Insighful and soooo helpful

Insighful and soooo helpful

Perfect guide for talking to kids

This helped me so much when talking to my 6 year old who had lots of questions about how "babies get into a belly". This guide gives many different ways to speak about sex depending on your familes views and values. It gives you a way to speak about as many or as few details as you are comfortable with or that you think your kid is ready for. I appreciate how well written and thought out this was. I'll be using it in the future for more open talks with my children.

Thankyou Cath

As a practitioner working in this space, coming across this course for free and being able to share it with parents and staff, was just the cherry on top of visiting Cath's website. Thankyou for your accessible, compassionate and colourful approach!

A very useful course, thank you!

wish i purchased this sooner

after a small incident with my 2 & 4 yr old, I purchased this course to learn how to approach teaching my kids about consent and to better understand what I should actually be concerned about. After this course, I purchased a few books that were recommended and will be having regular discussions with both my kids about body curiosity

Incredibly helpful resource

This is such essential reading, even if you do not think this is an issue for your kids in the moment, because it normalizes behaviors that to the untrained may seem problematic!

Just what I needed!

I was putting off the porn chat as I was worried about how I'd answer any questions! But now I don't have to, as it's in this book!

the reassurance I needed!

I've got a kid who is starting to ask lots of questions. This has been a lifesaver, as it's allowed me to answer their questions. But more importantly, it's shown me how to talk about these things in a way they understand

I love the illustrations

My kids are super curious about where babies come from, so I grabbed this to help me explain. The illustrations at the back are great, as I they helped me to explain. and answer their questions. Thank you!!!!!!!

Great product- non judgemental, friendly delivery

I recently purchased the getting started with sex ed course and was pleasantly surprised to find that instead of doing a big awkward talk like I feared, I’d already been doing a lot of the little conversations about bodies, feelings, consent etc with my kids. I liked how she broke the details into specific age/stages. Highly recommend!

Excellent information

Was very helpfull to oriented my daugther

Love it

What a great resource!

Worrying sexual behaviors

A great break down and understanding of sexual behaviors, both worrisome and age appropriate, by age. A great resource for someone who works with children and teens

Really helpful

Heaps of advice I'd never even thought about, super helpful!

Genitalia Learning Fun

A brilliant resource for students with intellectual disability and autism, who are also non verbal, to learn about parts of their body to keep them healthy and safe.

Great place to start!

Our daughter was very curious and was asking about pictures, this gave us a nice intro and gave her clear specific information appropriate to her age.

Good

Very informative, totally recommend

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Amazing info

This information is so valuable to all parents and educators. I wish we kids were born with this in hand. So so good.

Love that this book is electronic and I have access to it anywhere. It helps with conversations that tend to make people uncomfortable. Highly recommend

100% recommend

Reading "explaining sexual intercourse" gave me the piece of mind and back up I needed, reinforcing what I knew and offering precious new knowledge, in order for me to feel more confident and as ready as possible for whenever the time comes for educating my child on the matter.

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Making it easier!

I absolutely love this. This has helped me talk to my young children about different body parts, it also opens up conversation about body types. Everyone is different and I want my kids to know that! I definitely plan to purchase more in the future to help me as my kids grow.

best accidental help ive ever received

I got Worrying Sexual Behaviors because a friend of mine was having issues with her children and I was doing some research to help her. Not only did this help her maneuver this very tricky situation from start to finish in the most healthy way possible, I learned so much right along with her and am so thankful that this exists. We live in America where information like this is hard to come by. I am so incredibly thankful to have access to all of the material on Sex Ed Shop. My daughters and I are so comfortable discussing anything and everything, I cannot begin to explain how important this is when you are a parent trying to break generational cycles. Thank you, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!!!