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The Sex Education Answer Book

Equipping you with the answers your child is asking for, and the skills you need to deliver them

Suitable for parents, carers and guardians of children aged 3 to 14 years

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Kids are curious and full of questions.

❓ Where do babies come from?

❓ Why has my older brother got hair down there?

❓ Why are those two people kissing so much in the park?

❓ Can everyone have babies? And how do they get out?

And so many other questions.

Who do you want them to pitch those questions to?

Whose answers do you want them to trust?

You know it needs to be you – which is a pretty daunting thought.

It’s hard enough when their questions are bafflers like ‘why is the sky blue’, or ‘what is glass made out of’.

But when their questions are sex related it triggers a whole chain reaction of panic:

❓ How do I answer this in an age appropriate way?

❓ Should I even be talking to them about this?

❓ Are they too young?

❓ What if they repeat what I say to their classmates (or their teachers/grandparents)

The Sex Education Answer Book is here to answer your questions and theirs

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Hi, I’m Cath, a sex-educator with 25 years’ experience – and I’m a parent. And I’ve taken what I know about kids and their ever-inquisitive minds, and combined it with my professional knowledge, to create the Sex Education Answer Book.

Here’s what it includes:

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The foundations you need to feel comfortable answering your child’s questions

In this section I answer your questions so you feel equipped to answer theirs:

  • Why kids ask about sex.
  • Why it’s important for parents to answer those questions.
  • How to plan and deliver your answers.
  • What to do if they want more information.
  • How to handle questions that don’t feel age-appropriate.
  • How to feel more comfortable having questions about sex.
  • Getting started if you’ve never talked with your child about sex before.
  • Knowing when your child is ready to talk about sex.
  • How to incorporate your own values into your answers and encourage your child to develop their own.


  • Labelled diagrams and list of glossary of sexual anatomy for female and male genitals.
  • Sexual development – what’s going on for them between the ages of 3 and 14 and what they’re likely to be curious about at each age.
  • My 4 step strategy to answer every question AND be sure you’ve provided the info your child needed, and they understood it in the way you intended (page 31).
  • BONUS: Exclusive invite to my parent community – my private student FaceBook group where I will help you with sex education.

Answer scripts to over 200 commonly asked questions about sex

Questions and answers cover a wide range of different topics, including how babies are made, sexual intercourse, body parts, puberty, relationships, pregnancy, birth, masturbation, sexual diversity, gender, pornography, STIs, contraception and much more.
Answers include my suggested script (which you’re welcome to adapt or use word-for-word), plus when helpful, I’ve included an extra tip to help you tackle the question and extra info you may want to give if your child is keen to know more.
Easily find an age appropriate response. The questions are grouped according to age, and the answers are adjusted to be appropriate for that age. You can read the equivalent answer for a year or two older and younger to help you find the right balance for your child.

The Sex Ed Answer Book is right for you if:

✔️ You have a child aged 3-14 years.

✔️ You want to know how to answer their questions WITHOUT giving them too much information for their age.

✔️ You’re straight talking, want to give accurate information in a way your child will understand, and you’re comfortable with your child knowing (and using) the correct anatomical terms for body parts like vulva, penis and sex.

✔️ You want your child to come to you with their questions (not their friends or the Internet).

✔️ You want to counteract the influence of society’s sexualised messaging with accurate information.

Never fear a Sex Ed related question again and become the source of answers your child needs



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Questions you might have...

The Sex Education Answer Book is for busy parents who want to know what they can say to their kids WITHOUT giving them too much information for their age.

It is for straight talking parents who want to provide their child with accurate information that they will understand. Parents who also want their kids to come to them with their questions (and not the internet or the schoolyard). Parents who are concerned about the impact of negative sexualised messages on their child.

If you believe that kids shouldn’t know words like vulva, penis or sex, then The Sex Education Answer Book isn’t for you. The Sex Education Answer Book is very direct and talks about sex in a way that children can understand and not misinterpret. It helps you to talk about the stuff that kids are curious about so that you can satisfy their curiosity (instead of igniting it).

It doesn’t matter what your beliefs are as The Sex Education Answer Book just provides you with the facts. It doesn’t tell you what values you should be sharing with your kids. It is up to you to tell your child what behaviours and attitudes are okay and not okay. And don’t worry, The Sex Education Answer Book will help you to work out what values you want to share with your kids, so that your kids know what attitudes and behaviours are okay and not okay in your family. You’ll find prompts for adding your values.

The Sex Education Answer Book will help you with sharing your beliefs about sexual activity with your child – regardless of what you believe in. If you want to have any influence on what your kids eventually do about sex (e.g. wait for marriage), then you need to start planting the seeds of what you believe in early for it to have any effect! So inside you’ll find prompts for talking about abstinence.

Also, there is a difference between abstinence and ignorance. If you want your child to abstain from sex, you will have much better success if they are empowered with accurate knowledge as well as have a parent they can turn to.

Yep, I agree! I still feel embarrassed at times, when my kids ask me certain questions about sex. But the more that you talk, the easier it gets! Plus The Sex Education Answer Book includes some ideas on how to get past the embarrassment of talking about sex with kids.

The Sex Education Answer Book is written for children aged 3 and over, and is broken down into each age. So the information will be age-appropriate. And remember, we don’t just start talking to kids about sex. We break it down into simple concepts that they can understand and we talk about things that they are already interested in. For example, when your 4 year old asks where they come from, they just want to know that they came from inside your tummy (or uterus). They don’t want to know about penises going into vaginas – that is way too complicated for their little brains!

Also, in the modern world of today, kids will hear a lot of sexual stuff that they just aren’t ready for. The Sex Education Answer Book will show you how to talk about inappropriate stuff in an age-appropriate way!

The Sex Education Answer Book will give you just the right amount of information for your child. It even provides you with extra information, in case your child wants to know more! And you can always go up or down a year, if it feels like there is too much information!

That can happen but The Sex Education Answer Book will tell you what to do so that you can prevent this from happening.

Not to your kids, you won’t! The first conversation is always the hardest but The Sex Education Answer Book provides tips on how to sound more natural.

Possibly, but it just means that it is even more important than ever that you start talking now with your child now. The Sex Education Answer Book will show you how to make amends and catch up!

No, research tells us that it has the opposite effect. Kids that have had quality sex education are more likely to delay having sex, and when they do have sex, they are less likely to fall pregnant or catch an infection.

If you feel like you didn’t get enough value for your money, then let me know within 30 days of purchase, and I will give you your money back. No questions asked.

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